Please, explain the statement, “we can’t afford to keep going the way we were”!

There is something that has been repeated over and over during the election cycle and since. It’s something I profoundly don’t understand. It’s something I wish I could actually sit down and talk about with someone who says it. That something is: “We can’t afford to keep going the way we were”.

Here’s the thing. In the past eight years, so much has improved in our country. Yes, it was slow. Yes, it was frustrating. Yes, it took hard work.

So, here’s my question to each one of you who say, “we can’t afford to keep going the way we were”. What is wrong with “going the way we were”?

What was wrong with your life in the last eight years? Were you unable to find a job? Did your investments/retirement accounts diminish? Were you denied healthcare insurance or treatment because of a pre-existing condition? Were you ashamed by how other countries viewed us?

Just what exactly was so bad that you think we need to go back to the leadership that got us into the worst recession in our history, involved us in a war based on false information, created animosity toward our country around the world, and increased unemployment and the national debt?

The process of digging out of the recession has been difficult, at best. Many of the hurdles were caused by Congress refusing to cooperate/compromise in any way with any measures put forth by the President. Our government, historically, is not run by one person. It is a joint effort that includes all three branches of government working together for the good of the citizens. That important cooperation has been non-existent since President Obama took office. Republican members of Congress stated emphatically that they would block anything the the President proposed.

Despite this environment of opposition, President Obama and some members of Congress were able to achieve much to improve our country and our lives.


Since President Barack Obama first took office:

  • The economy has added more than 10 million jobs, and job openings are at a 15-year high.
  • The unemployment rate has dropped well below the historical norm, but long-term unemployment remains higher than at the start of the Great Recession.
  • The buying power of the average worker’s weekly paycheck is up 4.4 percent.
  • Corporate profits are running 152 percent higher, and stock prices have soared.
  • The number of immigrants caught trying to enter the U.S. illegally has dropped 53 percent.
  • Federal debt has more than doubled, and annual deficits, after shrinking, are again on the rise.
  • The home ownership rate has dropped by 4 percentage points.
  • The number of Americans on food stamps is up 36 percent.
  • Oil imports are down 53 percent, and wind and solar power have quadrupled.
  • The number of people lacking health insurance has gone down by 15.2 million. has much more information regarding changes since President Obama took office. Check it out for yourselves.

Now, notice that not all the numbers are good and not all are what we’d like. Yet, despite massive obstruction by the Republicans in Congress, much as gotten better during the past eight years.

So, again, back to where I find myself so confused. Please, tell me what exactly was so wrong with the direction in which we were moving? I’d really like to hear. I pray that it wasn’t because you oppose equality for all, compassion for those who suffer, and opportunity for those in need.

Then, please tell me exactly what Trump said that made you think he would or could make your lives better because that is the second part of my conundrum.


Why A Recount Is Important

I’m sorry to say I’ve had quite a lot of experience with skilled liars. I even spent some time married to someone who was so good at lying he could have taught a course on it. I certainly learned a lot about how a liar operates during my time with this person.

Probably the most important thing I learned is that a liar frequently accuses others of the sins he himself is guilty of committing. For example, if someone steals from his friends, he will accuse his friends of stealing from him. Or, if your spouse is having an extramarital affair, he will accuse you of the same. Thus, I find myself wondering about the number of times Donald Trump claimed that the election was “rigged”.

We all know Trump is a prolific and accomplished liar. The facts are too numerous and easily verified to even try to ignore. He has been judged one of the most untruthful candidates of all time. Clearly, he is a skilled, experienced liar.

So, is it any wonder that many of the voters are now questioning the legitimacy of the 2016 Presidential election? Knowing that Russia hacked into our computer system and manipulated the voters, who wouldn’t question the results? I, for one, keep coming back to the lessons I learned so many years ago. When a liar accuses another of a certain behavior, it’s a good idea to look behind the accusations for motivation.

If the election is legitimate, there is no reason to oppose a recount of any state. If there was no illegal activity, there should be no concern about a recount. If one is without any guilt, there would be no reason to complain about those who want to ensure the validity of the results.

In order to restore, and preserve, our faith in our election process, it is imperative that we conduct recounts openly and thoroughly. If the results are validated, then our system is validated. If the results are overturned, then we have proven that we have a system to protect the voters and the legitimacy of every election.


It’s been a tough four days…

I’m on an emotional roller coaster. I go from sad, to angry, to determined and back again. I feel shock, dismay, disgust, hope, and despair all in one day. I tell myself this is not the end of the world but it is the end of my naive faith in humanity.

One of the results of this election that is most annoying me is the Trumpsters who tell us we need to “get over it”, “the people have spoken”, and we should “come together in unity and peace”. To these people, I say, “BULLSHIT”!

I’m working on “getting over it” when I plan to mobilize with groups who will never stop fighting hatred, racism, and injustice. As for “the people who have spoken”, my candidate won the popular vote so the majority of “the people” spoke for Hillary not Trump. Finally, the “come together in unity and peace” works both ways.

When you decide to get your heads out of your asses and start preaching peaceful unity to the people in your basket, maybe I’ll listen to you.

When you start preaching peace to those people who are harassing children in school with taunts of “you’re going back to Mexico”, maybe I’ll listen to you.

If you ever start preaching peace to your supporters who are going onto university campuses and spitting on Muslims and writing racial slurs on walls and whiteboards, maybe I’ll listen to you.

Should you ever start preaching peace to those animals who are assaulting gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, and transgender people, maybe I’ll listen to you.

Until that time, I won’t listen to you because you are a hypocrite. You preach peace to those who disagree with you but you tolerate violence and hate within your own supporters. I’ll be watching. If you ever start acting the way you preach, I’ll start listening.


Stunned! Saddened!Incredulous!

I can’t say I never saw this coming. I warned many people that this could happen but I didn’t really believe it would. I had faith, apparently too much faith, that the citizens of the United States of America would reject hatred and lies.

Today I wake to what is being called a nightmare. I shake my head and ask myself how so many people could believe in what Trump was selling. I will never understand it and so, I know I must move on.

For my family, white, protestant, upper-middle class, this is not going to harm us too deeply. I worry about the future for my son as he is beginning his career but I trust in his intelligence and morality and believe he will be fine. We will hold one another close over the next four years and support one another through whatever will come.

My biggest worry is for those who are at the most risk under Trump’s America. The marginalized: women, people of color, the LGBT community, Muslims and those of any non-mainstream faith, those of no faith, immigrants and their families, the disabled, the poor and the middle-class. The future is full of foreboding and danger for these people.

I find myself asking, what can I do now? How can I help? How can I buffer these at-risk people from the hatred that may well rain down on them? How can I assure children that they are safe? How can I spread love and acceptance in the midst of hate and rejection?

No matter what happens to the 240-year-old experiment in Democracy that this United States has achieved. No matter what regressive laws we may have to deal with. No matter that our country has failed.

This is my mission.  I will not change who I am. I will continue to love and accept all people. I will spread love where there is hate. I will stand up for those being persecuted. I will not become a person that I despise.

I call all of my fellow citizens who believe in love, equality, and justice to join me.



We have sixty-eight days to endure the current election cycle. Sixty-eight days to shout that “my candidate” is the best. Sixty-eight days to shake our heads and wonder how anyone can support “that candidate”.

I am passionate about many causes. Most fall under the category of justice. Justice for all races. Justice for all sexual orientation. Justice for all genders. Justice for children. Justice for victims of crime. Justice for criminals. Just justice!

Knowing that, you can probably guess that I’m a liberal. And I’m a proud liberal. I wouldn’t want to be anything else because it wouldn’t fit with my passion for justice.

We live in the greatest country on earth and it’s not because of the politicians, the 1%, the lobbyists, or the huge corporate machines. It’s because of all the others. The working people, the students, the parents and their children.  All of us.

I believe in my fellow citizens. I believe that most of the people of this country care about this country and their fellow human beings around the world. Those of us who work, study, raise a family, and love one another want our country to continue being the best in the world.

Right now, I feel another passion welling in my heart. It is a passion for my fellow American citizens to stand up and show the politicians, the 1%, the lobbyists, the huge corporate machines, and all who think they own our Democracy that we’re taking back our country.  Now is the time for the citizens of the United States of America to stand up and show the world who we are and what we stand for. How do we do that?

We vote! We turn out. We show up. We make the effort. We take responsibility. We do our civic duty. We vote.





This post is specifically for me. I’m feeling anxious and stressed but I don’t really know why. So much of my life is awesome that I don’t feel I have any right to feel anything negative. So many people would trade places with me in a minute.

And yet, here I am feeling down. Feeling anxious. Feeling stressed.

Putting all of this into perspective might help.

My dear friend died on July 7th. I spent much of my time with her during the 18 months before her death. She was my priority. I don’t regret a single minute. I only regret I didn’t have more time.

My wonderful son graduated from college in May and received a great job offer with the U.S. Government (both his Dad and I are/were Federal employees) and just learned his start date will be October 17th. He now has to get an apartment, get moved,  and get set up to live in Northern Virginia. He is excited and we are excited for him.

This is my husband’s very busy and stressful time at work. He is an accountant and the end of the Federal Government fiscal year is challenging, at best. He works long hours and most days of the week. He deals with a heavy workload, changing requirements, unreasonable deadlines, and personnel issues. I try to do what I can to make life at home a little easier. I don’t think I hit the mark too often.

My best friend/sister has constant stress with her job, school, and a son who is an addict. I try to be supportive and positive for her. If ever there was someone who deserves a nervous breakdown, she is the one.

Lately, I don’t feel like my brain is working at top form. I’m forgetful and unmotivated. I have so many things I want and need to do but then I can’t get myself moving to do them. This causes me to feel like I’m not pulling my own weight in life.

So, looking back at what I’ve written, I see where I’m failing and know that this is what is causing my stress and anxiety. I’m not sure what to do about it except to try harder. I guess that’s all I can do…try harder.



Well, I’m not sure how to write about what I’m thinking but I feel a need to get it out.

I’m not posting this to get people to praise me or tell me what a wonderful friend/person I am. I’ve heard all of that and frankly find it embarrassing.

My dear friend died 3 1/2 weeks ago after a valiant fight against cancer. A fight she knew all along she wouldn’t win. I spent the past 15 months helping her with her fight. I took her to appointments; I picked up medication; I was her advocate with the doctor, nurses, and other medical personnel; I took her to chemo and brought drinks and snacks I thought she’d like; I spent time with her; we took a couple of great trips; I held her hand and told her I loved her. I say all of this just to give some background before sharing what is bothering me tonight.

Part of me feels I was a good friend…


I keep thinking I should have done more. I should have been there more. I should have found more ways to spoil her. I should have fought harder for her. I should have made it better.

Is this feeling normal? Do other caregivers of ill or injured loved ones feel this way? How do I get over this guilt?